How do I deal with picky relatives?

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Dear Destination Wedding Consultants,

My relatives are just not sharing in the excitement of my destination wedding the way I had hoped they would. My aunt, especially, is giving me such a hard time.

She doesn’t like the hotel I chose, nor does she like the location, she is literally going out of her way to find everything that’s wrong with our decision. Any advice on how not to take this so personally and cast the negativity aside? This is supposed to be my dream wedding in paradise. I would so much appreciate any advice you can give.


Dear Irina,

Sorry to hear that your aunt isn’t being a team player. To avoid a full-blown, reality TV show-worthy family feud, our first piece of advice to all destination wedding couples at the outset of planning is to avoid asking for anyone’s opinion. I know that sounds a bit extreme, but remember, this is YOUR wedding and YOUR choice – the memories will be part of your history forever.  It’s not Negative Aunty Nelly’s wedding. This dilemma comes into play again and again in the world of destination weddings, as everyone has different ideas of what it should and shouldn’t be. The best route, in this case, is to bite your tongue and tell your aunt, politely, that while you appreciate her opinion, expertise and experience, you would also appreciate if she could just be happy for you, and accept the decision you have made. If she still can’t help herself, then do your best to avoid her until the big day. No use in getting dragged down into the dumps when you should be busy planning, posting to your Pinterest board, shopping for your dress, and picking your colours. You’re busy enough as is tending to all the fun stuff!

Let the negativity leave you unaffected like water off a duck’s back. Stand your ground, and  keep in mind that this is your time to shine and be happy. A piece of sage advice we can leave you with (and this speaks to all potential couples), is to pick a wedding location and plan that is easy for guests to attend. While your idea of a dream wedding might be more rustic, in the jungles of Costa Rica or high atop a hill, off the beaten path in Puerto Vallarta, just remember that not all of your guests will find that to be ideal for many legitimate reasons (health, ease of travel, etc.). Make it easy and it should be smooth sailing!

Have your own questions or quandaries? Contact one of our helpful and knowledgeable destination wedding consultants or connect with other brides and grooms to hear their take!